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Why it’s ok to feel Joy at Christmas For many people who live alongside the death of someone they love, there’s an unspoken rule that grief should hurt  - especially at Christmas - like there’s an expectation that grief should be front and centre of your life, forever.  But…over time…something quietly is taking place. You notice yourself laughing. You enjoy the taste of food. You feel present and more connected to life. You may even realise that your loved one is not at the f

Untangling The Tinsel Tango Together As the year edges toward Christmas, many of us find ourselves pulled between excitement, stress, nostalgia, and the weight of “so much to do.”   For many, the holidays can bring joy and connection - but possibly also financial pressure, disrupted routines, school holiday stress, family tension, loneliness, or the ache of missing loved ones who are overseas or no longer here. In the middle of all of this, it’s easy for our intimate relation

When I speak openly about pregnancy after stillbirth and miscarriage, people sometimes hear a story with a beginning, middle, and hopeful end. What is harder to see is the decades in between - the raw, unfiltered years where nothing felt resolved, where my nervous system was stretched thin, and where my relationship with my body, mind, and the people I loved was constantly being rewritten. I’m 21 years  from my first birth trauma now. Twenty-one years from the day everything

There are many things’ people don’t tell you about grief, but one of the hardest truths is this: after someone you love dies, your life becomes threaded with The Terrible Maths. You count everything.  Not out of choice, not out of ritual - but because time suddenly becomes the only thing tying you to them, and yet it also becomes the thing taking you further away. Time seems to change You mark the minutes , because in the beginning that’s all you can do. Minutes since you la

What especially resonates with me about grief is the part about crying. You know, those moments when tears just appear, and your first instinct - or maybe someone else’s - is to hand over a tissue. We do it because we care, right? But sometimes what we’re really saying, without even meaning to, is: “Don’t cry.” “Please stop - this feels uncomfortable.” Tears aren't weakness And here’s the thing: crying is one of the most human, sacred, and physiologically wise things we can d